Super early post this am as I am about to head out on a long drive to Phoenix. Originally I had planned to leave yesterday and then it dawned on me that it was probably everyones plan to leave yesterday! haha 🙂 So I decided to take the extra day and relax, get some work done, have some me-time and be a bit more prepared to leave early this morning sans a bunch of traffic.
I’ve had a few friends, already home with their families, talk with me about how difficult it can be to feel like yourself when you’re around people that are so different from you, share such different views on how to do things, enjoy different things and different ways. Yes, I’m talking about family.
During this time we spend time with our families and for some its a smooth ride and others bumpy and others a bit of both. But I feel that one of the best things we can do is to continue to give our families a new chance each day.
What do I mean by that?
Well, to be honest, our families hold the longest memories in our minds and bodies. And probably since we can remember they’ve been a certain way…. but have they? I think that sometimes we continue to hold an old view of them and even keep them there, hanging on to past resentments or just simply viewpoints.
Its really up to us to try and transform any relationship. Now, yes, some just aren’t willing! But that doesn’t mean we can’t take 100% responsibility for how the relationships feel to us. Perhaps we’re even tolerating how something feels in our family endeavors. So, today, during this holiday and maybe forever, I am just reminded that WE are responsible for how we view others, how we interact with them, who they are for us, how they show up, and its us that can transform an experience from good to amazing.
No one is perfect and each person has qualities that are beneficial! So lets find the best in others, powerfully acknowledge and accept the rest and do the same for ourselves, handle ourselves in the same self-respecting manner and be responsible for how it turns out.
Anyway, I hope this helps! I think all too often people sort of fog out when it comes to family and there’s a new view to be had every single day, for ANYONE. That is a real gift!
Happy Holidays! Thanks for being on the other side!
Love is the reward for love.