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“Tennis Ball Theory” 
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Good morning everyone ❤ Hope your day is going well.
Today’s reflection is about generosity and reaping what we sew in the context of friendship and people.

You know, on New Years Eve I had two friends of mine kinda flake on me and my night ended up being a bit of a flop because of it. I was stillin the car from driving back home when the clock struck 12. And, to be honest, while there was no part of me that was mad or hurt, I was disappointed and I caught myself making it mean bigger things. “Oh maybe this will be the year of fake friends, oh no!” or I wondered “Will this be a year of loneliness and indecision, oh no!” These silly stories quickly subsided because I realized in the end, it meant nothing more than whatever those ladies were dealing with in that exact moment, and now I had the opportunity to be empowered.

Since then both of those ladies have reached out to to make plans. There was a part of me that didn’t want to respond or even wanted to get back at them just a little. That’s what my mind does when it wants to protect my feelings and control things.

So instead, I just chose generosity. I did the best I could to remember people are human, and they make mistakes, and hardly ever are they against us but for themselves in some way. I chose to continue to build with these women because I care about them, and also, I care about my Self. I also forgive and love myself when I do mindless things or make mistakes, and thats what relationship is about.

Now, let’s be clear and make some distinctions. There’s a balance here.

*I’m not going to continue to sew into someone who’s not sorry, because they are not ready to grow. (personal choice)
*I’m going to be honest about how things are for me, to my self and to them.

*I’m not going to be offended bc none of what others does has to do with me.
*I’m going to love them the best I can, which is now better than before bc I love myself.
Sometimes we need someone to be able to make mistakes with in order to grow. If people just drop us once we mess up, how can we learn to love? Compassion always built me up farther than judgment and dismissal did.

Its clear that I am able to love these people through these (tiny) mistakes where as before I would have said tomyself “Oh these people don’t care about me, I’m too good for this.” I would have written them off and I actually would have felt EMPOWERED. But obviously the real power is unconditional love. The real power is generosity.

And so, while “we reap what we sew” can seem like this magical fairy dust thing, instead it lands today as something logistical and practical. Now I have friends with a deeper connection bc that’s what I chose. I chose to be a generous friend.
Sending you all love today, thanks for being on the other side. What do you think the title of today means?

Jojo ❤ Diggs

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