“Tennis Ball Theory”
You know, on New Years Eve I had two friends of mine kinda flake on me and my night ended up being a bit of a flop because of it. I was stillin the car from driving back home when the clock struck 12. And, to be honest, while there was no part of me that was mad or hurt, I was disappointed and I caught myself making it mean bigger things. “Oh maybe this will be the year of fake friends, oh no!” or I wondered “Will this be a year of loneliness and indecision, oh no!” These silly stories quickly subsided because I realized in the end, it meant nothing more than whatever those ladies were dealing with in that exact moment, and now I had the opportunity to be empowered.
So instead, I just chose generosity. I did the best I could to remember people are human, and they make mistakes, and hardly ever are they against us but for themselves in some way. I chose to continue to build with these women because I care about them, and also, I care about my Self. I also forgive and love myself when I do mindless things or make mistakes, and thats what relationship is about.
*I’m not going to continue to sew into someone who’s not sorry, because they are not ready to grow. (personal choice)
*I’m going to be honest about how things are for me, to my self and to them.
Its clear that I am able to love these people through these (tiny) mistakes where as before I would have said tomyself “Oh these people don’t care about me, I’m too good for this.” I would have written them off and I actually would have felt EMPOWERED. But obviously the real power is unconditional love. The real power is generosity.
Sending you all love today, thanks for being on the other side. What do you think the title of today means?
Jojo ❤ Diggs