Good morning everyone, happy new week!

Today I am reflective of forgiveness. I recently found out a friend of mine was hurting others, intentionally lying and manipulating ​them, including attempts at influencing people’s opinions of me. Needless to say it was easy to feel anger and frustration.

Now I ​definitely haven’t been holding onto these feelings of anger or frustration, I let it go after several days

​(help from and ​thanks to my support system,​)​ but I am reflective this morning on the difference between ​letting go and forgiveness. There was still a part of me that was judging him.

​So, I’m reminded that forgiveness was still something that I was doing in a way that made me feel better than the other person. “Be the bigger person” I thought to myself. Is that real forgiveness? Or is that ego?​​

​In order to forgive him I actually have to focus on myself, and WHO I WANT TO BE.

At first I thought forgiveness was for them, and then I realized it was for me, but AFTER THAT, I realized its for me only, and not me in comparison to the other. While I still have to remind myself of this, theres an area that exists in between selfishness and pleasing others, which is simply me focusing on who I want to be.

This is Self – Love, creating a world where I strive to be who I want to be, not to be pleasing to others, but to be pleasing to who I believe I want to be, which, for me, is centered around God.

I hope this helps in some way, it helped me by writing it! Thanks for being on the other side.


Love is the reward for love. 

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