Good afternoon all,
I just made it to LA safe and am in my VRBO (for those that don’t know thats a better alternative to AirBNB.) Its a beautiful peaceful retreat for me, I am definitely looking forward to a peaceful and enlightening and FUN weekend!
This morning I was having a lovely conversation w a good friend named MK, she and I spoke on many things, one of them being light. After I got off the call I wondered if I had lost my light, if it had perhaps dimmed… and then I realized NO! Its just been in the shop! My light used to be very loud and boisterous, huge, but not controlled. Over the past few years yes, it has gone down a bit, and now I’m ready to have it at its brightness, this time controlled, grounded and way more intentional. An adult light, if you will.
All this to say, be cheerful, for all things are in perfect timing. No need to worry, God has a bigger plan and you will always be right on time, unless you yourself get in your way. Even then, God will relentlessly find solutions to keep you continuing.
“Enjoy the frustrations. They’re also the good stuff.” – me 🙂
Thanks for being on the other side!
Spread thin? Or doubling in size?
I reviewed my goals for 2018 and thought to myself how spread thin I am. I wish I could just focus on one thing. Lately I’ve been seeing memes about dedicating yourself to one thing and the rest will follow. But I just thought about how I have many loves and I’d miss a lot of things if I didn’t pursue them as well. I felt great in my areas but stagnant in that greatness. I want excellence and growth.
So, taking a real look at myself, I accepted I had never been willing to do the work it takes to focus intensely on this many things, so ya, my hard work was dispersed. So, I am taking on 3 weeks of really trying this out. I have scheduled out 8 hour days for myself, not including whatever comes my way.
After the 3 weeks I will be able to take a real look at myself and see whether or not this is something I can and want to keep up. I will be also to see what I wanted to take a front seat and back seat at times. Today is Day 1, scheduled and completely mapped out and I’m ready!
For those curious, here is my 16 categories:
Wish me luck!
Thanks for being on the other side –
Today is the start of the new week! And while last Monday was the 1st of the year and it was so easy to look at it as a fresh start, lets have that EXACT SAME MENTALITY TODAY! We have a clean slate, a new beginning, a chance to reflect on this past week and start new with new ideas, promises and behaviors.
Today I read a story about a mother and child sitting together, mom asks the daughter, how was recess today? Daughter replied “I played a game on the monkey bars and kept an eye on the buddy bench.” The daughters school has a wooden double seater, nestled on the edge of the playground, which is a simple call for anyone who is needing a buddy in that moment. Anyone who needs a hug, a friend, someone to talk, someone who feels alone or lonely, sits on that bench as a gentle but clear call that they need emotional support. And the kids always come.
I absolutely teared up when I read that… I sure would have sat on that bench as a child, many days feeling so different and unwanted from my peers. In an instant the child inside me felt emotion just reading that.
This story really touched me for several reasons. 1, I love the idea of asking for help, plain and simple. When we let others know about our struggles only then can they help. But all too often as adults we try to look or even feel strong, which is made up by our own definitions. Isn’t a huge part of strength vulnerability? Of course it is. “Strong enough to cry” I always used to say. This buddy bench metaphor really opened my heart for myself and for others, keeping in mind that often times peoples request for help isn’t as gentle or clear, but sometimes comes in the form of worry, sadness, insecurity, and fear.
Last but not least, the daughter kept an eye on that bench. She was listening for support, listening for the silence that speaks for comfort. What if we were all more keen to hear others as wanting love and support instead of finding defects and faults?
I’m very, very grateful for my incredibly supportive friends and family, I’m grateful to my Self for getting to a place that communicates what I’m feeling instead of responding to it.
In correlation, I had such a wonderful time with family and we reflected on how we’ve grown this year. Truth be told I grew so much this year in learning how to be graceful when I feel awkward! These difficulties taught me how to disconnect from some physical sensations and move towards my own empowerment despite them, this has been my favorite year thus far and this is the most powerful I’ve ever felt.
I hope your time with your family is enjoyable and another beautiful learning experience for you!
I hope to get in the gym today to work off all that gluten-free food I munched on yesterday.
Love is the reward for love.
Super early post this am as I am about to head out on a long drive to Phoenix. Originally I had planned to leave yesterday and then it dawned on me that it was probably everyones plan to leave yesterday! haha 🙂 So I decided to take the extra day and relax, get some work done, have some me-time and be a bit more prepared to leave early this morning sans a bunch of traffic.
I’ve had a few friends, already home with their families, talk with me about how difficult it can be to feel like yourself when you’re around people that are so different from you, share such different views on how to do things, enjoy different things and different ways. Yes, I’m talking about family.
During this time we spend time with our families and for some its a smooth ride and others bumpy and others a bit of both. But I feel that one of the best things we can do is to continue to give our families a new chance each day.
What do I mean by that?
Well, to be honest, our families hold the longest memories in our minds and bodies. And probably since we can remember they’ve been a certain way…. but have they? I think that sometimes we continue to hold an old view of them and even keep them there, hanging on to past resentments or just simply viewpoints.
Its really up to us to try and transform any relationship. Now, yes, some just aren’t willing! But that doesn’t mean we can’t take 100% responsibility for how the relationships feel to us. Perhaps we’re even tolerating how something feels in our family endeavors. So, today, during this holiday and maybe forever, I am just reminded that WE are responsible for how we view others, how we interact with them, who they are for us, how they show up, and its us that can transform an experience from good to amazing.
No one is perfect and each person has qualities that are beneficial! So lets find the best in others, powerfully acknowledge and accept the rest and do the same for ourselves, handle ourselves in the same self-respecting manner and be responsible for how it turns out.
Anyway, I hope this helps! I think all too often people sort of fog out when it comes to family and there’s a new view to be had every single day, for ANYONE. That is a real gift!
Happy Holidays! Thanks for being on the other side!
Love is the reward for love.