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Good afternoon all!

Today’s reflection is simple. How do I love myself? Not, why, but how. What are the actions?

Is self-love an action or a feeling? Or an action caused by feeling? Or a feeling caused by action(s)?

The answer is… yes. Its all of those things.

But which comes first? Obviously its a dance back and forth, but I guess theres no definite answer and it could be different for everyone.

Its important though for me to mention that the feeling of self-love holds no ground without action and vice versa. So, is self-love contained in both?

Or, is it perhaps that without cause there is no effect, without action there is no feeling. We could absolutely argue that the feeling could come first, but would it? Bc if you sat in a room alone doing nothing but sitting in a room alone would you find self-love? I think the answer is no, unless you’re meditating, and then we are back to action.

So, in the end I feel that the feeling of self-love is unattainable without the actions of self-love. And, ALTHOUGH at ANY moment we can decide to love ourselves, even to arrive at this point of power would take actions.

So, in order to love ourselves, we must LOVE ourselves (the action.)

So, today, how do I love myself? By honoring my needs, by sending this message, by eating home-made chili, by researching foods best for my health, by hugging and kissing my best friend, by staring at pics of my future french bulldog, by investing into my passions, by stretching, by drinking lots of water and taking vitamins, by smiling and embracing all that I am.

And that could not have come without self-love.

The beautiful cycle continues! ❤

Thanks for being on the other side, Happy Sunday!
jojo

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Good afternoon all,

I just made it to LA safe and am in my VRBO (for those that don’t know thats a better alternative to AirBNB.) Its a beautiful peaceful retreat for me, I am definitely looking forward to a peaceful and enlightening and FUN weekend!

This morning I was having a lovely conversation w a good friend named MK, she and I spoke on many things, one of them being light. After I got off the call I wondered if I had lost my light, if it had perhaps dimmed… and then I realized NO! Its just been in the shop! My light used to be very loud and boisterous, huge, but not controlled. Over the past few years yes, it has gone down a bit, and now I’m ready to have it at its brightness, this time controlled, grounded and way more intentional. An adult light, if you will.

All this to say, be cheerful, for all things are in perfect timing. No need to worry, God has a bigger plan and you will always be right on time, unless you yourself get in your way. Even then, God will relentlessly find solutions to keep you continuing.

“Enjoy the frustrations. They’re also the good stuff.” – me 🙂

Thanks for being on the other side!

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Spread thin? Or doubling in size?

Good morning all! So, this morning I woke up very very early which happens sometimes when Jade comes to bed very late. Often times I can fall back asleep but sometimes my mind gets going and it just won’t stop. Because I’ve been feeling a bit of a lull lately and was feeling like I couldn’t think still, I decided to get up. I’m really glad I did that.

I reviewed my goals for 2018 and thought to myself how spread thin I am. I wish I could just focus on one thing. Lately I’ve been seeing memes about dedicating yourself to one thing and the rest will follow. But I just thought about how I have many loves and I’d miss a lot of things if I didn’t pursue them as well. I felt great in my areas but stagnant in that greatness. I want excellence and growth.

So, taking a real look at myself, I accepted I had never been willing to do the work it takes to focus intensely on this many things, so ya, my hard work was dispersed. So, I am taking on 3 weeks of really trying this out. I have scheduled out 8 hour days for myself, not including whatever comes my way.

After the 3 weeks I will be able to take a real look at myself and see whether or not this is something I can and want to keep up. I will be also to see what I wanted to take a front seat and back seat at times. Today is Day 1, scheduled and completely mapped out and I’m ready!

For those curious, here is my 16 categories:

1. social support (considering starting a freestyle or choreo crew)
2. closer to God (wanting to do more bible studies)
3. finances (considering investing)
4. freestyle expression (started studying 2 new styles this year)
5. art projects (working on a film this year)
6. career
7. family (not a goal, but I want to take a trip w them this year)
8. diggs deeper (I want to throw the Training session weekend, our anniversary, a choreo competition, our mentorship program and a party this year)
9. fitness (want to build 10 lbs of muscle)
10. vlogs (want to start doing vlogs on the dance scene, mental development, fitness, dance, so on)
11. mental growth (want to take some developmental courses this year)
12. style (updating my look and closet, as well as need to do more photo shoots this year)
13. physical health (daily stretch and full body healing)
14. organization (I really struggle staying on task when I travel)
15. mentorship (i’m mentoring 4 people right now)
16. self love / project (doing 100 days of self love emails and blogs, I’m on day 69 today.)

Wish me luck!
Thanks for being on the other side –
Jojo

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Good morning everyone! Hope your New Year has been wonderful so far. I am noticing how much people see the relationship of what we are doing during this time to how we are creating our year, and yet, I also feel that this is always a metaphor to notice. Every day in all the little steps are what create our entire life, not just the big moguls.

That being said, I’ve had a much harder time drafting up goals this year bc I don’t have *a lot* of things I want to do, and its been having me feel un-inspired. What’s wrong with me? How come I only have 3 big artistic goals this year? Then I realized that my goals are the biggest goals I’ve shot for, and instead of creating 20 small ones I have 3 big ones, and its enough for me.

Additionally, these goals are what God has put on my heart for now, it doesn’t mean in a months time I won’t know more information, just as I’ve been saying.

So, if you’re struggling to figure out what you want to be doing, just take the next step, create goals around daily healthy habits, and be OK with that, for the habits we have at New Years can benefit us greatly to keep all year round.

What are your goals and/or resolutions this year?
Thanks for being on the other side!
Jojo

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Good morning everyone! I hope your holidays were amazing, as we move into our new year its great to have family time to really remind us of our achilles heels! Haha 🙂

In correlation, I had such a wonderful time with family and we reflected on how we’ve grown this year. Truth be told I grew so much this year in learning how to be graceful when I feel awkward! These difficulties taught me how to disconnect from some physical sensations and move towards my own empowerment despite them, this has been my favorite year thus far and this is the most powerful I’ve ever felt.

I hope your time with your family is enjoyable and another beautiful learning experience for you!

I hope to get in the gym today to work off all that gluten-free food I munched on yesterday.

Thanks for being on the other side,
Jojo

Love is the reward for love.

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Good morning, and Happy Holidays, and if today is Christmas for you, Merry Christmas ❤

Yesterday I wrote about how we must be willing to look at our family new, to relate to and honor their ever changing selves, disregarding the length of our memories.

And later on yesterday, I realized we must also do this with our viewpoint on HOW we interact with them. What I mean is, there is probably a habitual sensation, patterns, a way, mannerisms, viewpoints, even phrases that we constantly find ourselves thinking or speaking to our family members. So, in order for that relationship to really alter, how WE are in respect to it must alter. We have to pay attention and transform who WE are. Just as we want to give them a new chance to grow and become a greater person, we are also responsible for how we are in those situations.

I know that I used to be a certain person in the dynamic of my family and I was that way NO WHERE ELSE in my life. I had to really be intentional in transforming my relationship to them. Again, yes, we have to alter how we see them, but also in order to create a new relationship we must take a look at how we are with them and then alter what person we are with them (if we want to.)

For some of you you may have a wonderful, solid friendship with your family already, and that is great! Is it at its absolute maximum potential? (If yes, please share!!!) I suppose this reflection of how we can look at others newly and also interact with them newly can be applied to anyone where we are tolerating any relationship, or there is conflict, whether it friends, family or acquaintances.

Either way, thank you for letting me share these thoughts of mine with you, it gives me an opportunity to grow, be a kinder and more empowered person, and possibly give someone a more joyful holiday.

Thanks for being on the other side! ❤
Jojo

Love is the reward for love.

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Good morning!

Super early post this am as I am about to head out on a long drive to Phoenix. Originally I had planned to leave yesterday and then it dawned on me that it was probably everyones plan to leave yesterday! haha 🙂 So I decided to take the extra day and relax, get some work done, have some me-time and be a bit more prepared to leave early this morning sans a bunch of traffic.

I’ve had a few friends, already home with their families, talk with me about how difficult it can be to feel like yourself when you’re around people that are so different from you, share such different views on how to do things, enjoy different things and different ways. Yes, I’m talking about family.

During this time we spend time with our families and for some its a smooth ride and others bumpy and others a bit of both. But I feel that one of the best things we can do is to continue to give our families a new chance each day.

What do I mean by that?

Well, to be honest, our families hold the longest memories in our minds and bodies. And probably since we can remember they’ve been a certain way…. but have they? I think that sometimes we continue to hold an old view of them and even keep them there, hanging on to past resentments or just simply viewpoints.

Its really up to us to try and transform any relationship. Now, yes, some just aren’t willing! But that doesn’t mean we can’t take 100% responsibility for how the relationships feel to us. Perhaps we’re even tolerating how something feels in our family endeavors. So, today, during this holiday and maybe forever, I am just reminded that WE are responsible for how we view others, how we interact with them, who they are for us, how they show up, and its us that can transform an experience from good to amazing.

No one is perfect and each person has qualities that are beneficial! So lets find the best in others, powerfully acknowledge and accept the rest and do the same for ourselves, handle ourselves in the same self-respecting manner and be responsible for how it turns out.

Anyway, I hope this helps! I think all too often people sort of fog out when it comes to family and there’s a new view to be had every single day, for ANYONE. That is a real gift!

Happy Holidays! Thanks for being on the other side!

Jojo

Love is the reward for love.