Good morning everyone, happy new week!
Today I am reflective of forgiveness. I recently found out a friend of mine was hurting others, intentionally lying and manipulating them, including attempts at influencing people’s opinions of me. Needless to say it was easy to feel anger and frustration.
Now I definitely haven’t been holding onto these feelings of anger or frustration, I let it go after several days
(help from and thanks to my support system,) but I am reflective this morning on the difference between letting go and forgiveness. There was still a part of me that was judging him.
So, I’m reminded that forgiveness was still something that I was doing in a way that made me feel better than the other person. “Be the bigger person” I thought to myself. Is that real forgiveness? Or is that ego?
In order to forgive him I actually have to focus on myself, and WHO I WANT TO BE.
At first I thought forgiveness was for them, and then I realized it was for me, but AFTER THAT, I realized its for me only, and not me in comparison to the other. While I still have to remind myself of this, theres an area that exists in between selfishness and pleasing others, which is simply me focusing on who I want to be.
This is Self – Love, creating a world where I strive to be who I want to be, not to be pleasing to others, but to be pleasing to who I believe I want to be, which, for me, is centered around God.
I hope this helps in some way, it helped me by writing it! Thanks for being on the other side.